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I had grand plans for 2022. One of those plans was to write more. At first, I wasn’t writing as much as I intended because I was busy. No matter, I thought, I will make it up later.
Then life challenge after life challenge piled up. My place got flooded due to old pipes. Family members passed away. Their deaths were completely unexpected and my grand plans got lost in the sea of my tears. Without a doubt the sudden and unexpected passing of my father has been the most difficult for me. My grief has been ongoing, and even now as I write this I cannot help but cry.
I cannot say that my experiences and thinking about loss from a multidimensional perspective makes me feel less sad and the days and nights less difficult, but I can say that in doing so I feel gratitude. If you are going through a loss, please know that whatever you are feeling is valid and my thoughts are with you. Below is what I have kept in mind as I grieve.
1) Historical Perspective: although I wish I had more time with my dad, I am grateful to be in the time period I am now. If we lived in a different time period, my family and I might not have had any voicemails or videos of my dad. We might have only had a single photograph of my dad. Going further back in time, we might have only had a portrait.
